Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.
— Arthur Ashe
2 reasons why you might not be growing.

2 reasons why you might not be growing.


"If you're not excited about it, it's not the right path." - Abraham Hicks

People, like any living thing, are meant to grow.

But sometimes, we stop growing. Life seems to be going on great, and then, things just slow to a stop. We begin to feel stagnant - even discontent - and we can't understand why. Nothing seems to have changed, so why have we stopped growing?

This is a question I asked myself a lot when my husband and I were in the process of deciding whether it was time to move on from the organization we had both given four years of our life to and had loved so well.

I finally came to realize that the problem wasn't with us. We simply had outgrown that season.

If you're looking around at your life right now wondering why you've stagnated, here are some things to consider:

#1: You're in the wrong soil.

When I was a kid, as a science project, my mom and I went out into the yard and collected some of our dirt, and we sent it out to be tested. When the test came back, it told us what our dirt was made of, what kinds of things would grow best in our yard, and what to add to our soil if we wanted to grow something different.

Every living thing is different. If you're not growing, perhaps you're malnourished in some area of your life. In our culture and generation, it's easier than not to become emotionally, mentally, spiritually, or creatively malnourished.

What kind of soil are you in? What are you taking into your life? What kinds of attitudes and people are you surrounding yourself with?

If you know you're in the right place, but you're not growing, you might be in the wrong mindset. You might have the wrong priorities and you might be lacking attention to areas of your life that need more TLC.

#2: You're in the wrong pot.

We mostly think of goldfish as being tiny little aquarium pets, but according to, a goldfish will only grow as much as his environment and his diet allow him to.

A goldfish in a tank that is too small, or who isn't being properly fed, will have stunted growth.

This is true of flowers, trees, or any other living thing.

If you're not growing, it might be time to consider that you've outgrown your environment. Sometimes, we simply grow all we can in a specific place/job/season. If you've outgrown your clothes, you get new ones. The same should be true of anything else in your life.

The key is to know how to sense when you have stopped growing, and why.

Have you stopped growing? What steps will you take to help you determine why, and to position yourself to start growing again?


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